(written 26 Nov 2009)
Dot was able to stay in a home environment up until 13th October 2009.
She had deteriorated and wasn't taking enough fluid or food ..
Carried her in my arms as she was too weak to walk .. gave her a shower with a beautiful frangranced wash,
washed her hair and put her in some nice clothes.
Rather than have her go to the hospital in an ambulance, drove her myself.
That way it was more personal, she had airconditioning & nice music to listen to on the drive.
Pointed out the clouds, flowering trees, birds & children on the footpath.
What I will always remember is that literally as the Hospital came into view, the song which came on the CD was Mirusia (from Andre Rieu's orchestra) singing"Time to Say Goodbye" ... It literally ended as I pulled up to the front hospital doors.
On the way home from the hospital later in the night, the song on the CD as I was leaving the hospital was
She was moved to Palliative Care a couple of days later .. becaue she had done so many "out-of-the box" things in the last two years, why should the end be any different so on the last two nights, took up her favourite aromatherapy oil blend - rose and lavender (she’d had massages every fortnight for six months).
The next night took a few of the more upbeat CD’s that we listened to on our many long road trips ..
I had a feeling that even though her life was nearing its end, it still could be joyful .. put on some old time piano, Elvis gospel and relaxation music but softly.. music that we listened to on EVERY outing in the car. What a joyous way to end a life ... she passed away about two hours after that.
She had passed away prior to 1.15am 19th Octobrer 2009.
A little before 4am, a "thought" popped into my head to leave at 4.04 ..so I acted on the thought ..
"Dreaming of Angels" .. and it finished at precisely 4.04 am.
Post script .. used the same song we’d heard approaching the hospital
to take her casket from the chapel to the grave.
"Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened."
It was so synchronistic, wrote to the author of that daily quote, Jonathan Lockwood-Huie in America
and so the story continues ..
to see Mirusia singing "Time to Say Goodbye" ..